TOMBSTONE TUESDAY: Reflect the hard life of women in olden days

Some old epitaphs reflect the hard life of women and childbirth in olden days

70 years a maiden

1 year a wife

2 months a mother

And that took her life

Erected to Emma A., daughter of Abram Cox, and wife of Theodore Schallehn, who married against her father’s will. On her death, Abram Cox inscribed upon her tombstone.

She died leaving five children,

She married too young against her father’s will:

Single women, take warning!

Abram’s inscription caused family difficulty because the late husband thought it reflected badly on him so he took away the stone and had inscribed:

She died leaving 5 lovely children

To mourn her untimely loss.

Vinegar of the Four Thieves: Recipes & Curious Tips from the Past – This book is a compilation of some of the funny and helpful tips from our past history. Some recipes and tips date back to 1770s. One or two sound a little dangerous and I would never try them myself, but I’ve included them in this book for their humorous and historical value. A few are useful, especially for our ‘green’ society today. Makes a great gift!

About Donna R Causey

Donna R. Causey, resident of Alabama, was a teacher in the public school system for twenty years. When she retired, Donna found time to focus on her lifetime passion for historical writing. She developed the websites www.alabamapioneers and All her books can be purchased at and Barnes & Noble. She has authored numerous genealogy books. RIBBON OF LOVE: A Novel Of Colonial America (TAPESTRY OF LOVE) is her first novel in the Tapestry of Love about her family where she uses actual characters, facts, dates and places to create a story about life as it might have happened in colonial Virginia. Faith and Courage: Tapestry of Love (Volume 2) is the second book and the third FreeHearts: A Novel of Colonial America (Book 3 in the Tapestry of Love Series) Discordance: The Cottinghams (Volume 1) is the continuation of the story. . For a complete list of books, visit Donna R Causey

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  1. 🙂 Typo. I’ve included (“then” or “them”) in this book for their humorous and historical value.”

    1. Thanks for catching that.

  2. Clyde Lansdell

    Oh how I remember our visits to the Lansdell family cemetery.

  3. I have been to numerous cemeteries in Bullock, Pike, Barbour, and Jefferson Counties in Alabama. I am sure I have ancestors that I haven’t found yet. I enjoy it so much.

  4. Missy Chandler

    If she was 70 years old when she got married that could be the reason she died two months after having a baby…

    1. Virginia May

      I think it’s about another woman. Ha ha or she would have set a record!

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